Some events, such as those that take place in private homes, so we want to meet you before we invite you into one of our host’s homes! These events can be anything from bonfires to grill outs to movie nights to brunches and more! In Minky, we sometimes refer to this as a “vibe check” or just “meeting a mod.” We aren’t expecting a list of your references and a copy of your kinky resume! Meeting a mod for “vibe check” is how you become a Minky Member!

The links to RSVP to our members-only events are on our Discord (https://discord.com/invite/ZweFjcEet3) and require becoming a Minky Member by meeting a mod. Want more details about events? Read more about our events!

You can meet a mod at our monthly munches on the last Sunday of the month! These events have dedicated time that moderators spend ensuring they talk to new attendees.

Note: This is not related at all to being age verified on our discord–all that does is allow you to access certain channels in that space.

To attend a members-only event, first you need to meet a moderator:

How to meet a mod at a munch:

  • We have munches on the last Sunday of each month.
  • We announce munch location and time here on the website, on our discord, and on fetlife.
  • Come to the munch! Our munches are low pressure, low structure, and don’t feature things such as everyone attending doing introductions. Mods will make themselves known, and we also tend to make an extra effort to say hello and chat with people we don’t recognize!
  • Eat delicious things and engage in conversation!

How to attend members-only events:

  • Once you’ve met a mod and “passed the vibe check,” you’re a Minky Member! This is also a role you’ll get added in our Discord.
  • You are now able to attend other members-only events that we host! You’ll find these in the events tab of the discord, and in the #minky-events channel. Many of these events are “public” to all Minky Members and the location will be in the channel, while some events have limited attendance and require RSVP by a form. You’ll find the RSVP links for our events on the Discord! (https://discord.com/invite/ZweFjcEet3).
  • We encourage everyone to join the Discord (https://discord.com/invite/ZweFjcEet3). It’s a great way to stay in touch with people you meet at our events! And, we add each event as a special channel, to help with planning, carpooling, and potluck food planning!
  • However, if you do not have a Discord account and are unable to make one, you may message a moderator after you’re a Minky Member and we will send you the RSVP link.