Kink, BDSM, and LGBTQ+ Events

We all know that LGBTQ+ community and safer spaces are important. We aren’t a group with just a munch and a Discord; Minky facilitates online community and hosts an array of vanilla and kink events including munches, community day events and discussions, educational workshops and presentations, indoor and outdoor adventures, online workshops, social gatherings and bonfires, picnics and grill outs, movie nights and brunches, and more. All of these events are, as always, kink friendly, where people can authentically express themselves personally and their dynamics in our spaces.

Our events fall into two main categories: Open attendance events, where everyone 18+ is welcome, and Minky Member events, which are just for Minky Members! Read more about how to get verified for members-only events here!

Open Attendance LGBTQ+ Kink Events

Community days are social events open to everyone, not just Minky Members, to meet new people and catch-up with friends! Unlike our munches at restaurants, community days have board games and video games, crafts, snacks, or also feature a kink discussion topic!

Everyone 18+ is welcome! Unlike our munches, which have time dedicated to verifying new members, moderators do not spend designated time to verify new Minky Members at these events.

Minky Members Only Events

Some events, such as those that take place in private homes, or that require a higher level of trust in attendees, are only for Minky Members! After all, we’d want to meet someone before we invite them into one of our host’s homes! These events can be anything from bonfires to grill outs to movie nights to brunches and more!

This also includes low-attendance kink lite events, with some play, demos, or where dynamics are the focus. Events include educational kink demo days, protocol D/s events, “littles” space, electrical play, quiet play events with hypnosis or sense-dep, kink games, or even just a movie night with a cuddle puddle.

These events are only for Minky Members.

Rules you need to know about our events:

We enforce a no outing policy at our events.
- Dress code is vanilla unless otherwise specified.
- Some of these events may be held in public spaces, meaning there is a risk of outing outside of our control. That said, at events held in public locations, be mindful of your volume in conversation, and of the proximity of other people or staff.
- Please refer to the Outing Policy in our Code of Conduct for more information.
- Occasionally our outdoors events may have kink-lite elements, like outdoor rope bondage. These are fully clothed, non-lewd, pride-style events. Outdoor events carry a level of outing risk for attendees, but are legal, fun, and in our experience, spectators tend not to pay much attention and those that do want to join. It will be made very clear prior to such an event if it will include kink-lite elements; if the event does not, we ask that you do not bring things like rope.
Minky runs with a tight budget, and some of our venues charge us a fee, or we spend money on snacks and supplies. We encourage donations of $5-10 so we can keep running events, but they are not mandatory.
For attendees 21+, responsible alcohol consumption is allowed if sold by the venue.
Drug use is not permitted at or before any events.
Don’t be creepy. Our events are intended to be casual and comfortable social group gatherings, not meet markets.
If an attendee is making you uncomfortable, let a mod know and we will address the behavior to the best of our abilities.