Like most midwestern groups, our play parties are in private homes, so we need to meet you before inviting you to one of our host’s houses! In Minky, we sometimes refer to this as a “vibe check” or just “meeting a mod.” We aren’t expecting a list of your references and a copy of your kinky resume! Meeting a mod for “vibe check” is how you become a Minky Member!

The links to RSVP to our parties are on our discord (https://discord.com/invite/ZweFjcEet3) and require becoming a Minky Member by meeting a mod. Want more details about attending parties? Read how to go to a play party!

Minky also frequently hosts special members events! These non-party, non-munch events are sometimes vanilla non-kink events, while others may include some kink play or demos. These events are for Minky Members only, so you’ll also need to have met a mod!

You can meet a mod at our monthly munches on the last Sunday of the month! These events have dedicated time that moderators spend ensuring they talk to new attendees.

Note: This is not related at all to being age verified on our discord–all that does is allow you to access certain channels in that space.

To attend a play party or members-only event, first you need to meet a moderator:

How to meet a mod at a munch:

  • We have munches on the last Sunday of each month.
  • We announce munch location and time here on the website, on our discord, and on fetlife.
  • Come to the munch! Our munches are low pressure, low structure, and don’t feature things such as everyone attending doing introductions. Mods will make themselves known, and we also tend to make an extra effort to say hello and chat with people we don’t recognize!
  • Eat delicious things and engage in conversation!

How to RSVP to play parties and attend members-only events:

  • Once you’ve met a mod and “passed the vibe check,” you’re a Minky Member! This is also a role you’ll get added in our discord (https://discord.com/invite/ZweFjcEet3). You’ll find the RSVP links for our parties on the discord!
  • You are also now able to attend other members-only events that we host! You’ll find these in the events tab of the discord, and in the #minky-events channel. Many of these events are “public” to all Minky Members and the location will be in the channel, while some events have limited attendance and require RSVP by a form.
  • We encourage everyone to join the discord (https://discord.com/invite/ZweFjcEet3). It’s a great way to stay in touch with people you meet at our events! And, we add each month’s party invite list to a special category deleted after the party to be able to chat about things like party scene planning and potluck food planning!
  • However, if you do not have a discord account and are unable to make one, you may message a moderator after you’re a Minky Member and we will send you the RSVP link.
  • Invitations with party location and information are sent about 48 hours before the party.